The Empowered Principal by Robeck Angela Kelly;

Author:Robeck, Angela Kelly; [Angela Kelly Robeck]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Publisher: Morgan James Publishing
Published: 2020-08-15T00:00:00+00:00

Summary

•Blueprints are one way your brain develops expectations for your life circumstances.

•If our expectations align with our life, we are happy.

•If our expectations do not align with our life, we are unhappy.

•The way we approach our life varies based on our emotional state.

•Negative emotion triggers inaction, reaction, or intentional action.

•It is possible to feel negative emotion and take positive action.

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Our Approach Influences Our Results

We’re on the last component of the STEAR model – our results. This is the component that gets the most attention before we understand that, in fact, it is the most influenced by all of the other components. Our brain ignores our thoughts and emotions and dives right into action and results. This makes sense because our results are the physical manifestation of our thoughts, emotions, and actions. They are tangible to the brain. The brain likes to focus on our results because it does not want to experience the discomfort of the interior work that takes place prior to taking action.

We believe that taking action is what creates uncomfortable feelings. We think that the act of making a phone call to an upset parent is why we feel resistant. However, the reason we feel resistant does not come from taking the action of picking up the phone, dialing the number, and talking to another person. These are all harmless actions. None of these actions will cause you pain. The feeling of resistance comes from the thought that the conversation will not go well.

So before we’ve taken action, our brain has anticipated what the emotion the body will experience. This anticipated outcome determines whether or not we make the phone call and from what state of emotion we communicate with the parent. What we believe will be the result of the phone call steers the way we approach the call and ultimately determines the result of that phone conversation. If you approach the parent from a state of fear, you may come across sounding like an incompetent pushover. If you approach the parent from a state of frustration, the conversation may result in a heated discussion met with resentment and defensiveness. If you make the phone call from the emotional state of compassion and assurance, you may find yourself in a pleasant exchange with the parent. However you choose to approach the phone call will impact the outcome.

I think most people can wrap their heads around that. Where we go astray is by not fully believing that we can choose our approach, regardless of our emotional state and that we can shift our emotional state by shifting the thoughts we think.

When we are leading schools, we are bombarded with situation after situation. On any given day, principals deal with tardy students, double-booked meetings, angry parents, field trip hiccups, not enough substitute teachers, fighting children, budget cuts, failed technology, state testing, recess and lunch duty, bandage distribution, fire drills, and school assembly coordination. And these are what come up before we check our 200 emails! We make hundreds of decisions on a moment’s notice.

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